Monday, March 30, 2020

Montessori Year Four, Our 'Gratitude' is Yours!



Ira just completed four years of Montessori. Every year closes with a year end party for the kids and they get a chance to say their byes before they head for the summer vacation.

This year ofcourse it has all been different. We stopped sending Ira to school after 9th March 2020, the day the Government of Karnataka closed schools for pre KG and KG students. A decision taken at the right time.

On 16th March, we went for the PTM and heard from the teacher about Ira. This year was a lot about learning to deal with her social surroundings and managing her social relationships. Academically, she had broken into writing, began learning more complex concepts and also two vernacular languages.

But this year, if there is one thought we are Grateful for is that Ira became more comfortable being herself. Too young for that, you may say. But this is the age when peer influences begin to impact a lot and she learnt to be assertive even if she thought differently from the group. We are sure it wasn't easy for her, but regular conversations at home when we told her that she must be happy to be herself and be happy with what she has.

All those moments when she sang a song out of tune and did it with so much gumption, loudly declared she loves superheroes and wants to be a warrior princess, she said that she likes rainbow on everything, she said that she knows what she wants and that moment when she tells us that she thinks with her mind and keeps things in her memories.

So, we are grateful for a year that clearly taught us through our little human being-
"Be You
Believe in Yourself".

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Saturday, March 14, 2020

Social Distancing and keeping 'Little Human Beings' engaged, the Ira way



Ira does a newspaper reading activity with Prashant everyday. Thanks to that, she had already been reading coronavirus related news for the past few weeks. Getting her to understand that there is no school, no karate class, no summer camp and no play dates and no meeting lot of friends for sometime this month onwards wasn't that difficult a task.

We are all aiming to bend the curve and Social Distancing is what we are all working towards. Reduce contact. Avoid social gatherings.

It is a  week since school shut for Ira. The initial few days we did some permutation and combination and managed. Post mid week, one of us is definitely home.

While this is a very daunting task in cases where both parents are in regular jobs and their organizations are not providing a wfh option. Also, many day cares have shut down. For us, we are grateful that her Dadu Dida and Mesho Dadu and Mashi Dida step in to help us out during such crisis moments. But now given, that we are trying to stay home as much as possible, the thing that is in everyones mind is how to keep the child occupied.

A 5 year 10 month old can be very active, full of energy, a zillion questions and more. So, here sharing a few things that we are doing and figuring out on the way.

1. Some reading or writing activity that is Montessori alligned everyday. We either read the words from the phonics book or write them or do some activity sheets that we have. Not much. But about 30 mins every day. As we read or write, we discuss about the words or sentences. Eg. While she was doing sentence writing today, we discussed how some sentences can be filled in multiple ways. Eg: I like to eat.... can be chocolates, vegetables or fruits. The picture in the activity sheet was that of chocolate. Also while doing comparatives, to understand the big and long usage and other instances. This is to keep in touch with school alligned activities, considering that this is almost a three month break.


2. Reading the Newspaper
This is a Ira-Papa activity. He marks 5 headlines for her to read. Then she has to select about 10 words from anywhere in that page and read them. We learn new words, we learn what is happening in the world, we learn reading newspaper is a good habit to build.

3. Involve her in all things 'Food'
We discuss what we are eating that day, what veggies are being cooked or what meat or fish is on the menu that day. Like her Mamma Papa, she seems to be a foodie with a keen interest in cooking. She could help clean the curry leaves, sort some veggies or beat the eggs. The nature of the task is simple, the idea is to keep her intrigued. While in this process, we also decided to make a list of veggies and fruits she is eating everyday and a discussion on 'colours on my plate' follows. This chart while a WIP seems like a nice idea in the long run.

4. Play board games or card games
Ira plays scrabble with her own twist and loves to play Uno. We also have puzzles and snake and ladder and Ludo. Lot of choices and lot of fun. Joy visited us yesterday and we played Uno. Ira won 2/3 games, with a little help from Papa :) They were one team, you see.

5. Make this!
We have begun making the randomest of things with what ever she has. Kitchen roll cardboards to make things, a paper doll, four cups, wands using paper straws. This is craft, the Ira way. We use what we have, scrap paper, ribbons etc. This doesn't involve shopping for new items. Our latest is also making posters and talking about it. We made one on coronavirus too!

6. Reading stories
We are currently reading GoodNight Stories for Rebel Girls, Part 2. We try and read a few stories everyday. Sometimes, we pick up other books from her rack. Read what you desire that day.

7. Unstructured Imaginative Play
There are days when Ira can play for hours by herself, making up stories, arranging her soft toys and pretending to be their teacher, her super heroes protecting the world or how you must not get corona virus.

8. Screen-time
Given the long nature of the holidays this year, we have mutually decided on about an hour or two of screen time everyday. This can be doing some activities or games on Khan Academy or watching movies that Papa has collated on Mamma's archaic notebook for her. Considering we have no TV, this indulgence also works for us adults to get our screen time :)

9. Let her be
This option works wonders. There are days we do almost all of the above. And there are days, when we are sapped of energy and just want to be. We then tell her she can do what she wants- play, colour, jump, dance...anything. and she figures out a way. Somedays, the let her be becomes a chipku movement with us and we roll with it.



While we can't wait for this phase to come to a close, we make the most of what we have.
And remember,
Be kind to self and protect self; protect our loved ones and protect the community.


#Ira #Iraisms #IraAtFive #TalesAtFive #Parenting #Gratitude #SocialDistancing #LittleHumanBeings

Friday, February 21, 2020

"I Love You", the Ira way



                         Twinning in Love!

Expressing love is important. While adults often struggle with the expression of this basic emotion, 'Little human beings' have the most innovative ways to do that.

We at home are both vocal and 'huggie' by nature. Saying 'I love you' is like breathing. While it is important, it is best when done in an effortless manner.

Growing up, many of us may not have had a family environment where love and care was vocally expressed. Even today, the older generatio  shows it through the food they cook, the questions they ask and the concerns they show. It was never about I love you, a pat or a hug and kiss.

Prashant and I are both different as individuals on the expression- meter (not even sure if such a word exists).However, as parents, we understand and feel it is extremely important to express how you feel with your child and encourage her to do the same.  The result is that group hugs, individual hugs, chain of kisses happen before we three head out for the day. If one of us is travelling, Ira will walk us to the lift and loudly say, "Love you Mamma" or "Love you Papa"; ensuring the entire apartment can hear it! A goodnight follows with a 'I Love you'.

Ira expresses love through the cards she makes for her teacher, her friends, her mamma papa, herJoi and her grandparents. She draws the 'heart' everywhere now, along with a rainbow and ensures her messages to Joy include her signature 'i love you'.

I would like to believe that this tradition or behavior, whatever we choose to call it, will continue. But we are also aware that there may come a time when this vocal expression may seem silly to our not so little human being. For now, we bask in it, shine in it and find our hearts melting in it. We also twin at times and take pics to capture that moment. Because 'I love you' can be expressed in so many ways that a little human being finds delightful.

To a world of love, hugs, kisses and happy rainbows, the Ira way!



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Friday, February 14, 2020

Love is a lot of things



Love is a lot of things
Love is knowing exactly how she likes that alu sabji
Love is knowing exactly how he likes the chicken curry
Love is knowing that panch phoron is her spice of choice
Love is knowing that jeera is his indulgent sprinkle
Love is knowing that she cries to express multiple emotions
Love is knowing that silence is his solace when the mind is in a whirlwind
Love is knowing that dark chocolates can just solve all her problems momentarily
Love is knowing that cooking and cleaning are his problem solvers
Love is knowing that when she talks nineteen to a dozen, she is fine
Love is knowing that when he is at his sarcastic best, he is fine
Love is knowing that she smells the pages of every book she reads
Love is knowing that when he plays a video game, the thrill he heeds
Love is knowing that she will always be a die hard romantic
Love is knowing that he will be the pragmatic one, scoffing at the overtures
Love is knowing that she will make those little notes
Love is knowing that he will send her the cutest gifs
Love is knowing that she mastered the art of making imperfect chocolate dipped strawberries
Love is knowing that he can just conjure a perfect coffee on even an imperfect day



Love is a lot of things
Love is seeing that 'our precious' loves her sweets and devours books just like her
Love is seeing that 'our precious' loves her treks and presents arguments just like him



Love is a lot of things
Love is writing a mushy poem on a day that celebrates love
Love is taking a pic of the moment, even though we all look exhausted
Love is making sense of random love filled moments
But the fact is love needs no reason and no day

Love is a lot of things
Love is for everyday!

#Love #Us #We #HappyValentinesDay2020 #Happiness #Gratitude

Thursday, February 13, 2020

Our 'Little Human Being' Graduates Montessori




         Ira and Mamma posed and Papa clicked

8th February 2020 is a milestone day for our little girl.

 
 Ira with her Certificate 
with the founder of her Montessori


She had her 4th Year Montessori annual day and her graduation. To just see her walk up that stage, take that certificate and pose must have been the moment of the year. Sadly, Papa was unwell and missed it (the first ever event at her school that he missed). Ira couldn't wait to tell Papa all that had transpired including the little gift Mamma won for answering a random quiz question.

                      Telling Papa everything

She also performed on a dance number and shyly smiled, which was preceded by waving and flying kisses to Mamma. A day that was as precious as our little one. Ira and Mamma missed having Papa with them on that day.




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Wednesday, January 1, 2020

"Happy New Year 2020", the Pramadh way



This pic quite sums up 2019 at the Pramadh household. A year filled with gushes of uncertain winds, challenges- big and small that came our way. Moments of perseverance that kept us grounded. This little human being made us believe even more strongly that there is happiness in every little thing- collecting stones, twigs and dispersing seeds alike. We all pushed our boundaries, learnt in leaps and bounds. We discovered new things- the joys of reading for the first time, finding the superhero in us, making a new dish, finding a new way of life. Daily conversations about how our days went with Ira asking us existential questions and then times of crazy, mad laughter. Little holidays, big joys. Grateful for all the precious moments with family and friends- celebrating milestones, random chatters and memories of the years gone by.
As we stood on this hill top after a trek year end, the experience was as exhilarating as the year gone by. The smiles say it all, one step at a time.

Happy New Year 2020 everyone!

#Ira #Iraisms #IraAtFive #TalesAtFive #Happiness #Gratitude #Love #Us #We

Tuesday, December 31, 2019

A Resolution I met in 2019!

2019- one of the resolutions I made was to read more and read atleast one new author every month! Some months, I read two new authors . What a fabulous year it has been discovering new authors. Also read lot of debut novels and some sequels. 6 books of Haruki Murakami <3 p="">
29 books this year.

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Friday, November 15, 2019

"Mamma, they have such a beautiful garden"





"Mamma, Lotus!! They have such a beautiful garden." When Ira accompanied Mamma to work today at this beautiful institution!

While Mamma met her students, Ira did some drawing, played with her super heroes and then went for a walk with one of Mamma's students.

Post lunch, before we left, we walked a bit more in the garden and took some pics ofcourse.

This is a child who loves gardens and parks and leaves and flowers! She helped untangle two flowers and then collected some stones while walking to the gate.



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Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Menndi, the Ira way



It is a rather gloomy day in Bangalore and am working on some behavioral analysis report for a client.

Sudden urge to look through the phone gallery and i see some pictures that captures something new that Ira and I did this month.

Ira has had mehandi put on her hands during some festivals at school and from a neighbour aunt. This holiday we got a mehandi cone when we met Aruna aunty and Trisha didi. Ira also learnt about the fascinating fevicol strip with glitter from Trisha and slept with that strip the next few days.

Mehandi cone was gifted and like Ira said, "Mamma, you have to put menndi for me"! We appointed a specific day and time for the activity.

So, Mamma tried her best. We made a spiral web and flowers, love symbol and pine tree leaves. While a part of me was worried about the crooked lines, Ira loved it and showed it off to friends and families alike.

We already have decided that we need to buy mehandi next holiday too because we love mehandi hands. Papa who has no love for the mehandi aroma was made to sniff her hands and tell her how awesome it is and well, Papa obliged!

Parenting makes you do things and parenting makes you feel you are the most artistic person in the world, thanks to those glimmering eyes and happy smiles.



#Ira #Iraisms #IraAtFive #TalesAtFive #LoveMehandi #Happiness #Parenting #HolidayActivity


Thursday, October 24, 2019

When Ira drew her way through her first 'real competition'!




This time during the Durga Puja celebrations at Prabaasee Pandal, Ira participated in her first ever competition- Drawing Competition. The children could draw whatever they wanted. First ever because while her Montessori has activities on sports day, they give a common memento to all kids. No concept of 1st,2nd,3rd and consolation.

Ira pleasantly surprised us with what she drew. For all of you who have been reading my blogposts, you would know that our little girl is quite a firm decision maker. She decided she will take part in the drawing activity. She used the colours they gave and safely guarded the colours she had carried in her dino bag.




She drew a rainbow, flowers, mountains, sun and the rain. When I asked her to explain, she said only when there is sun and rain, will the rainbow appear. The rainbow was the main element of her drawing, depicting the range of happy expressions on her face.

Ira actually won the third place in the age category 4-6 years. The terminology didn't matter to her, what she was excited about was that she got chocolates.



The little joys in life. Let us all discover and be thankful for such rain, sun and rainbow filled moments that our little human beings bring into our lives.

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Sunday, September 22, 2019

"I want to colour my hair blue!"- 'Wishes', the Ira way.

                        Our little 'Rebel Girl'!

Being parents to a little human being is one of the most adventurous things that has happened to us! Every day is an adventure, every conversation has adventurous elements and every little wish of our little girl is adventure personified.

This weekend she suddenly out of the rainbow said, "I want to colour my hair blue!".

The parent in me reacted.
Mamma: "what, why?"

Ira: (calmly) "I want to colour my hair blue, like Coy."

While I was still in my head figuring out who she is talking about, P realised she is talking about Coy Mathis.  We read about Coy in the book 'Goodnight stories for Rebel Girls' and she is one of our favorite 'Rebel Girls' . We are currently on the 37th story reading a few every week.

And then the conversation continued.

Mamma: Ira, you cannot colour your hair. You are too young and it has chemicals.

Ira: But why can't I, when Coy can.

Papa: Because it is allowed where Coy is. Her school allows it.

Mamma: Yes Ira. She lives in America. It is fine there. Here we have strict rules. May be you can colour when you are 12. But only the edge of the hair.

Ira: when I can choose my own dress, why can't I colour my hair.

Mamma: well, that is a simple decision. But colouring hair is about putting chemicals which may not be safe.

Ira: But I am also allowed to make big decisions and do things that I like. Choose what I play, what I watch, what I eat.

Mamma: yes, we have given you the independence to make your decisions about certain things. But some things...

Ira: But I want to colour my hair.

Mamma: ok. We can talk about this later again. And like I said, when you are 12 may be.

Ira: (Getting her negotiation face on) no, when am 7.

Mamma: Naah. 7 is too young to make this decision.

Ira: But Coy is also that age.

Mamma: yes, but like we told you there are some rules in schools here and we have to follow that. Also, we are ok with you colouring your hair but at a particular age. Not before that. (thinking of some solution for now). And you can ask Nash (Her hair stylist whom she worships, literally).

Ira: (in tears) Ok . But I can make my own decisions.

This was followed by some tears, some hugs and we decided to get back to this conversation. Till when this conversation thread picks up again!

Parenting is often not about the big things, major changes. It is actually about small conversations that our little human beings want to have with us,small ideas, the tiny steps towards freedom and decision making and how do we help that growth story.

There are no easy answers and we didn't have one either. But yes, we acknowledged how she felt, we understood the context where this idea came from. A part of me feels proud that she is internalising some learnings and a part of me wonders, where does she pick up these 'rebel' ideas from.

The rebel gene must be largely from Papa because she even sounds like him a lot of times. People who have intercated with her closely can vouch for that.

For now, P and am happy to raise a 'Rebel Girl'. So, raising a toast to rebel parents too!

And yeah, today is Daughter's Day and we did wish and hug and kiss and do things together.

#HappyDaughtersDay2019 #Daughters #Ira #Iraisms #TalesAtFive #IraAtFive #HairColour #Decisions #Conversations #CoyMathis #ColourMyHairBlue #Parenting

An Ode to the Gen Z

 To my Students- Past, Present and Future                                              These two frames adorn a wall in my home, a constant ...