Monday, August 30, 2021

My Narrative Is Mine to Build

 


Ira drew this for her art class. A tree with roots of her imagination. Quite sums up what I feel these days. 


You are not in my shoes

You don't know my struggles

You are not in my space

You don't know my woes


My battles are my own

My shackles are mine to break

My thoughts are mine to temper

My narrative is mine to build


Some moments are difficult to comprehend

Some fears are difficult to rationalise

Some hopes are difficult to foresee

Some roads are difficult to navigate


I find solace in the quiet

I find rhythm in the solitude

I find answers as I look within

I find kindness as I let go


No puzzle, just a state of mind

No destination, just a journey to find

No judgement, just be kind

No story, just time left behind


#ExistentialThoughts #LovePoetry #MTrails #ArtByIra #IraLovesArt #Ira #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven 


Tuesday, August 24, 2021

Today I choose JOY


 A beautiful Tuesday. 

For posterity, this is a post I put up on FB today. 


For years, she called him Joi.

Her confidant, her friend, a big part of her little world. They fight like crazy, listen to similar music and are team mates when we all play a group board game! She will get annoyed with him but you utter a word against him and she will defend him like a rock.

She doesn't call him Uncle or Mama, just 'Joy'. Imagine the happiness when we found this tee at one of her fave stores. Of course, she had to wear it when she met him and take a pic.

Also, today she has been reading Chamber of Secrets since morning, constantly! She sent him this pic. Do note the book mark. She keeps it horizontal to remember the line where she is <3




And incidentally, both their names have a common meaning! :)

#IraAndJoy #Ira #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #Fun #Happiness #Joy


Sunday, August 15, 2021

Happy 75th Independence Day! Conversations and art, the Pramadh way

India celebrates its 75th Independence Day today. 


                        Pramadhs Create Art


As we spoke of freedom and the importance of today, I asked Ira what does freedom mean to her? What does it mean for people to be free? 


Ira: What I think freedom or free means to be in my opinion means that a person, it could be a male or  a female or  a boy or  a girl wants to do whatever they feel like. 


Mamma: And what is it that they would like to do? 


Ira: Anything that makes them happy or is good for their country


Mamma: What would you like to do as  a free person? 


Ira: I would follow my dream and just be who I want to be and not let people push me around saying like you know,  you have to be this! 


Mamma: So, today is what? 


Ira: Independence Day


Mamma: What do you want to tell India? 


Ira: I want to tell India, "Happy Birthday India".


While Ira understands that we can love whoever we want, she is yet to comprehend the gender spectrum completely. But she is sure that everyone should have the freedom to do what they want. 


We three together worked on  a simple piece of art today. The hands (no political representation) here are an ode to the hands that grow our food, that feed us, that fought for the freedom, that works to keep us United, that strives to keep us safe; hands that teach us, hands that create, hands that write our stories and hands that hold our hands. Every hand tells a story, in all colours and hues. 


Our dear friend Dolly Koshy posted her thoughts today and it resonates with us completely. Here is what she says,  


"Indian at heart; global foodie

Independence Day Breakfast.


On this  independence day let's keep in mind that what we eat or who we love or what faith we follow or don't follow doesn't determine how much we love our country. 


Let's try to be independent from the shackles of our mind.


True freedom is to value not only our own independence, but also respect others’ choices. 


Let's have freedom from fear, violence and discrimination. Let's have freedom to question those in power and our elders.


#IndiaIndependenceDay #freedom "


So, also sharing our plates of happiness and gratitude today. Our way to share our love for our country. 

Sweet Potato Parathas with Mango pickle, Curd and Chutney Pudi






Rice, Masoor dal, Banana Stem fry, Salad, Roopchand Fish fry and Fish Curry

Like Ira says, Happy Birthday India! 


#75IndiaIndependenceDay #India #Indians #Ira #Pramadhs #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #Happiness #Gratitude #Love #Freedom #ConversationsWithIra #PramadhsCreateArt #ValueFreedom #RespectChoices 

Sunday, August 8, 2021

Dadu Baari and all things fun, the Ira way




Last month, Ira went and stayed at her Dadu's home for a weekend. 

It is her place of unlimited fun, pampering and do as you like moments. 

From showing off her new acquired acting skills, to telling them about her new school, drawing random things to teaching Joy how to play slime. Spending time lazing around and watching an animated movie with Joy. 


Fun with her Partner in Crime


Every meal has her favourite be the alu chochori (alu sabji with kalonji) with chapati, fish curry made by Dida or chicken curry made by Dadu. She declares that Dida makes the best alu chochori and Dadu makes the best chicken curry, just the way she likes it. 

Before she went, she even emailed Dadu and Joy to tell them how excited she was and sent an animated card made on Canva. 

The two days went in a jiffy and our girl was back home,  only to ask when is she going back again. 




Given the pandemic, even going to Dadu Baari has been a privilege and a blessing. 

Archiving every moment like this, because in life, memories are one of the best things we have. 


#Ira #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #GrandParents #DaduBaari #DaduAndDida #IraAndJoy #Happiness #Gratitude #Love 

Sunday, August 1, 2021

A letter from 2 best friends to our little girl, the Pramadh way

 



Dearest Ira, 


We are your parents 

We will always be your friend too


The friend with whom you can share

All the fun things

All the happy moments

All the crazy adventures

All the heartbreak tears

All the fears and apprehensions

All the dreams and aspirations

All the cool and boring things

All times mundane and magical


The friend who will

Be the wind beneath your wings

Walk by your side in the storms

Push you to strive harder

Hold you when you stumble

Be the Devils advocate and your strongest ally

Hug you whenever

Love you forever


We are your parents

We also will always be your friend


You will travel the world 

You will make many more friends

And in your parents, in 'Us', 

You will always find a friend. 


Happy Friendships Day! 


Lots of love, 

Papa and Mamma


#Ira #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #LittleHumanBeings #Pramadhs #Parenting #Happiness #Gratitude #HappyFriendshipDay #BestFriends  #Love 




Sunday, July 4, 2021

Breakfast at Ira's Restaurant, the Ira way




The Pramadhs love food, love cooking and love experimenting. Since very young, Ira has been Papa's assistant while he cooks. She is all excited and set with her apron and has helped him make pakoras, chicken and even cookies and brownies. 


This first Sunday of July, was a first for us. Papa two days back said let us try something new. One Sunday a month Ira will plan, prepare and present the breakfast. The menu is her choice, we will help her source the materials. 


Ira felt a bit overwhelmed initially, saying how will she do it all alone. Then we told her that we would be there to guide and help her with critical (using gas for eg.) things. For the record, Ira has been taught to use the gas stove, under supervision. 


So, she decided that the menu would have bread, eggs, jam, butter, peanut butter, cheese slices and juice. She also asked our preference for the eggs, Papa said he will eat what she serves while Mamma said, boiled eggs :) 


So, post finishing her milk, she arranged all her ingredients and began making breakfast. She took help only to on the gas to place the saucepan in which she was boiling eggs. She decided boiled eggs is easier than making scrambled eggs even though she is a scrambled eggs fan. 


Mamma helped write the menu board! 

Papa got peanut butter and Jam sandwich with Orange juice; and his second one also had cheese slice, on special request. Mamma got buttered bread with boiled egg with sprinkled pepper and Ira had same as papa with Mixed fruit juice. 


Breakfast was had and she said, Phew! Thankfully, this is just one Sunday a month. She also immediately reported to Joy how making breakfast for everyone is terrifically terrifically terrifically hard. As I write this, she is resting her back after all the hard work! Happy Sunday, I say! 



Little learnings in little moments, as our little human beings discover the joy of Independence and agency. 


I am sure waiting for the Sunday in August to see what we have for breakfast, the Ira way. 


#Ira #Iraisms #LoveFood #LoveCooking #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #LittleHumanBeings #Happiness #Gratitude #Parenting 

Friday, June 25, 2021

What do you see?

 


     

When you see patterns in the clouds

When you see colour in the grey

When you see lifelines in the green leaves

When you see meaning in scrambled words

When you see stories on blank pages

When you see aspiration in day dreams

When you see sense in chaos

When you see hope in bleak moments

When you see perfection in the ordinary

When you see resilience in broken smiles

When you see memories in lonely eyes

When you see love in withered flowers

When you see life in the meandering paths


When you see beyond the obvious, you truly see. 


#ExistentialThoughts #LovePoetry #SubjectiveSonnet 

Sunday, June 20, 2021

You taught me so much Papa!



               One of their favorite things to do! 

Being a father to a little girl is one of the hardest things to do. 

  • She looks up to you to solve all her big problems. 
  • She runs to you with the smallest bruise as you are her first aid officer. 
  • She wants to do pull ups and count you down too so you both are stronger together. 
  • She talks to you about food textures while you cook together and how she can feel that little extra spice.
  • She watches Uncle Rogers and Tipsy Bartender with you, asking a zillion curious questions. 
  • She wants you to keep showing those funny videos and fiasco adventure clips. 
  • She reads the newspaper headlines, discusses them with you and then wants to solve the jumbles too,emphatically pronouncing the words phonetically. 
  • When unwell, she clings to you and tells you it makes her feel better. 
  • She does her stretches like you have taught her and claims you are the best massage giver. 
  • She cringes her eyebrows like you and shrugs those little shoulders too to make a point at times. 
  • She likes to play subway surfers and monument valley and knows you will bring up her score and be her saviour. 
  • She likes to trek and nudged by you, wants to be the trail leader, packing that perfect trek bag. 
  • She says, "You taught me so much Papa!", when she beats you in a conversation and convinces you in an argument. 
  • She is fierce, independent and adventurous like you Papa. 

Being a father to a little girl is one of the hardest things to do. 

You are her hero and her partner in crime. 

You are parenting 24*7, because that is what being a Father is all about. 

Happy Father's Day Ira ke Papa! 


Also, this year, I was unable to meet Baba. So, a little glimpse of how Baba and Papa celebrated Father's Day, with a peanut butter chocolate cake and some dark chocolate and chicken pulao. 




#HappyFathersDay2021 #IraKePapa #Baba #MyPapaStrongest #Ira #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #JustLikeBaba #JustLikePapa #LittleHumanBeings #Happiness #Gratitude #Parenting #BeingFather #Pramadhs 

Thursday, June 17, 2021

Summer Stories, the Ira way


   This pic was taken when she was creating a space for her Videos. Her little nook. 


Summer has come and gone. It was another lockdown summer. 

The things on our mind were what could we do to keep our little human being busy, not fill her day with tasks but was there something new that she hadn't done before. 

Ira loves unstructured play and can play for hours by herself with her superhero figurines and blocks. She loves to draw and paint too and yes, day dream happily, lost in her own world. 

Mamma began her search and was bombarded with lots of summer camp information, some of them asked us to register and then bombarded with whatsapp messages, some had the usual art, craft, no fire cooking etc. Many camps on coding, programming etc. Theatre and drama camps seemed enticing too. This was a paradox of choices, honestly. 

In this myriad of searches, I came across a camp on Micromastery by Ryan Chadha of Jigyasa Academy. What was interesting was not just the fact that the camp had an information poster but he had written a blog talking about the concept and how it will help children. Micromastery was about learning microskills, small things that you practice and practice till you get really good at it. 

The camp that spanned over four weeks helped the children develop a variety of microskills like open mic poetry- writing your own song and rapping, public speaking and creating dialogues and role plays, doodling and zentangle, juggling and card tricks, making some snacks like truffle pudding, fruit mocktail and swizz rolls, and also being introduced to Japanese, along with making a brush robot! 


What she learnt beyond these microskills:

  • Ira was homeschooled the previous year and this online mode of learning with a group of children was a whole new experience. 
  • She was thrilled with how zoom worked and the breakout rooms. She had only used google meet to chat with friends before.
  • Working in a team with other children and creating something new. 
  • Listening to different ideas and appreciating them. 
  • Understanding the importance of practicing what she learnt. For days, every evening she would want to juggle or just roll and tumble. Papa and Ir a learnt a lot of card tricks and evey little card had doodles and zentangles. 
  • She also diligently would say, Excuse me and ask her questions. Thanks to Malu for teaching her this really really young. 

Amidst all the boisterousness, chaos, laughter and learning, the weeks flew by. 

During this time, Ira was also covid positive and the camp and interacting with the children really helped her get through those quarantined days. 


May turned out to open up a whole new world for Ira with Ryan introducing a camp where she learnt to do podcasts on Anchor and also Canva, where she designed posters and cards. She also learnt to make YouTube videos. Papa,who was her in-house teacher for this camp, in his enthusiasm got her a lapel mike and a gorilla tripod. Our girl was thrilled and made random videos for personal consumption. 


What we discovered about Ira from this camp:

  • She likes to do anything that is creative and also, has a knack to do podcasts. 
  • She has been writing her own songs and poems but this camp helped her hone her writing skills. Of course, Mamma or Papa helped her type out some of the scripts as she dictated the main ideas and then we worked to do the final edits together. 
  • She has a strong idea of what she wants and will do it exactly that way. The element of Independence and autonomy just found another avenue of expression. 

As she turned 7 end of the month, she also described herself as an upcoming artist and podcaster! 

Apart from these two camps, we also learnt some chess and warli painting; and our biggest Summer discovery was Wendy Mac. Like WM says, " Whatever you draw is perfect!" 


What we learnt as parents:

  • There is so much happening around and we don't have to do it all, and neither do our little human beings. 
  • Do not fill the day with activities. They don't need a timetabled existence. Life is hard enough, given the pandemic. 
  • Let them have time to do nothing. 
  • It is absolutely fine to be bored. 
  • Accept meltdown the way you accept an interested learner. 
  • Accept the high activity moments and the slumber moments. 
  • Choose activities that the child would like to engage in. 
  • And finally, every engagement is not about 'what next', but also about enjoying the experience. 


A big shout out to Ryan and his team for a very well curated camp, to the numerous teachers online on various learning platforms who have their unique ways to engage kids and finally to Wendy Mac, for ensuring many moments of self affirmations with every little thing they draw, be it a guitar, a lighthouse or a cheese toast. 


So, to new learning, discovering self through all things creative, embracing new identities and having fun doing it all. To many more summer stories to come every year. 



#Summer #Happiness #Learnings #Activities #SummerCamps #Identities #SelfDiscovery #Autonomy #Independence #UnstructuredPlay #SummerStories #Ira #Iraisms #IraAtSeven #StoriesAtSeven #LittleHumanBeings #Parenting #Gratitude  #Pramadhs


Monday, May 31, 2021

Discovering Self, Ira turns Seven


The Birthday Banner and Chocolate Milkshake

Our Little Human Being turned Seven a few days ago. Lockdown birthdays and planning it is a whole new work of art and excitement now at the Pramadhs! Little things to make the day special. 

She woke up by 5.55am, was all ready and set for the day! She wore a new tee and shorts which she said defined her. On the tee, there was a dolphin unicorn with head phones! She loves unicorns and dolphins and loves listening to music! Mamma and Papa did that happy invisible dance in their head. 

Ira began her birthday with cuddles, kisses and hugs, followed by Chocolate milkshake with lots of chocolate sauce. A day filled with wishes, messages and video calls. 

Ira loves puzzles and had to solve some puzzles like captains square, jumbles and arithmogon to discover her gifts. An electric brush, a Thea Stilton book and lots of stationary and craft items. Dadu gifted her a carrom board for her birthday and that is our new found love at home. We play a few games everyday. 


The Menu card, the Cup cakes and her new Visiting card. 


The Visiting card says- 7 year old and brave trekker, upcoming artist, podcaster too. Yaay! Talk about Self affirmations. 

When you have  a foodie at home, the menu has to be curated well too. We made a menu card with Warli art on it, something she is fascinated by and has learnt recently, and I learnt along with her. Fish curry and Pasta made it to the menu, along with 'gurer payesh' (Kheer with Jaggery). 


   Her Kolkata cousins were specifically informed about her love for fish head :) 


One of Ira's favorite people made chocolate cupcakes for her and we had ordered a Rainbow Cake from one of her favorite patisserie. The glint in her eyes on seeing the 7 layers was priceless! 

We rounded off the evening with an online game of pictionary, where she named her Avatar as Birthday Girl; and then a family movie, called Home! 

All of seven now, she declared that "This is the best birthday ever! ". BTW, she says that every year :) 

As I write this today, she is also recording her podcast, Episode 6 on her birthday week. Yes, one of her discoveries about herself this summer-  she enjoys podcasting! Her podcast is called, Iraisms, Let's Shine Together (www.anchor.fm/irapramadh)! 

More on that and all her summer fun & learning in another blog. 

Happy Birthday to our Supergirl! May you continue to discover new little things about yourself, about the world and life! Love you to the moon and back <3 


               Rainbow Cake and Happiness

#Ira #Iraisms #StoriesAtSeven #IraAtSeven #SeventhBirthday #LoveBirthdays #LoveCake #RainbowCake #Happiness #Gratitude #Podcaster #BraveTrekker #UpcomingArtist #Pramadhs #Celebrations #LockdownBirthdays #LittleHumanBeing #BirthdayGirl #Supergirl 


Saturday, May 22, 2021

Love, Food and Haiku, the Pramadh way




Love will find a way

I write,You cook, happiness in sway

Two people in love, 'foodly'. 

Attempting a haiku to tell you all about love, two diametrically opposite people and food being one of the many things that connects them, I mean us :) 


We celebrate another lockdown anniversary this year. A quiet happy day with some yummy food, a puppet show by our little human being, some cupcakes, a dechki of biryani and the perfect Spanish omelettes. Lot of lovely wishes and two dear friends sending in a piece of their heart (those ceramic mugs in the pics) and home made chewy brownies. The evening closed with a game of pictionary played virtually with Joy. 


Our little human being loves celebrations and put up an impromptu puppet show and also made  a card and emailed it to us. She is a splitting image of us, imbibing our most quirky qualities. 



     Puppet show by Ira Pramadh. 

Cast: Woody, Mickey Mouse and Rainbow


                       Cupcakes make us happy! 

Love will find  a way in these tough times, every moment with dear ones is precious and to be grateful for. 


Happy Anniversary My Love! 

I love you like biryani

A package deal, through thick and thin

13 today, more to come. 


Happiness and Gratitude on a plate

#13thWeddingAnniversary #Happiness #Gratitude #Love #Us #Pramadhs #Ira #Iraisms #StoriesAtSix #IraAtSix #LittleHumanBeing #LoveFood #LoveCooking 

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